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What is Personal Responsibility?

 

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Developing Personal Responsibility

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Titus 2:11-12

(The below emphasis comes from the Greek translations and root Translations)

After all, God’s saving Grace (unmerited favor of saving kindness and life of Who God is, what He has performed past , present, and in the future will perform in the Constance of God’s Character and Nature) has appeared (BRINGS TO LIGHT,revealed) for the benefit (deliverance, freedom, emancipation, liberation, release, rescue, recovery, salvation, of all people (everyone). It trains (re-patterns, re-parents, instructs, rationally mentally convinced) us to avoid (say “NO” to, turn our minds from, forsake, renounce) godless (self-indulgent) lives filled with worldly(cosmic, corrupt, earthly torments hostile to God) desires (pleasures, passions) so that we can live soberly(sensible, Rationally GOD-controlled, discrete, the rational expression of God’s mind which changes our mind from irrational to rational thinking), justly (uncorrupted integrity, Honest, and authentic, transparent), and (in a way that shows that we are serving a Living God) godly (spiritually whole and uprightly though Christ-like righteousness) lives in this present world (age, time).

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WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE GOD’S RELATIVE?

You may be asking yourself WHY we are talking about being GOD’S RELATIVE when the topic is personal responsibility. Personal responsibility is directly connected to our Adoption from God. If our paths to personal responsibility are rooted in self, it will lead to self-reliance, independence, self-preoccupation, behavior-modification, self-righteousness, self- assurance, religion (man’s attempt to please God) and eventually pride or idolatry. When we depend, yield, and surrender to God’s adoption we become interdependent. Our new God given Adoption is the basis of our responsibility. It becomes personal because of our new nature birthed within us from God.

Adoption is not a work of grace only in us, but an act of God’s grace without us.

The Grace of God is who God is, and what He has done past, present, future, the every sided unalterable character and nature of God. Many times we want to alter the Grace, Character and Nature of God to our own understanding in relativism. We want to create it in our own image. This then becomes idolatry. Where we worship the one side of His Grace and alter the image of who God is and what He has done. We create our own side of Grace instead accepting the every sided grace.

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Romans 8 He calls us his adopted children, belonging to the Father.

Hebrews 12:6, 7, 10 We see the side of the father who loves and wants the best for us so much to the degree to by Grace teaches us because true love will take that risk.. He is not willing to give us a one sided message of altered Grace.

The grace of God is who God is and what he has done: the attributes of God that flow with one another in a constant circle and won’t contradict each other. The Grace of God is God’s name that flows to our cup (capacity) and overflows to others.

He paideuo (pahee-dyoo’-o) us…. By training, instruction, caring discipline, which causes one to learn, like a loving daddy would instruct his child. He moulds our character. The stairway to character in one stair at a time! We are taught to learn.

He pours himself (His Name) into our cup of our capacity and re-parents us. Often grace is misapplied to focus upon the outward behavior of an individual, Grace really goes much deeper into the internal problems where people are bound in sin and have no capacity to on their own change. This is what Grace does; it gives us new capacity that allows God to re-parents us.

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The new interwoven internal capacity that allows God to re-parents us can only be clearly understood when we realize what the Grace message is not:

1) The Grace message is not, we can continue to pervert our body. We can continue to destroy our capacity and devastate our future.

2) The Grace of God does not stand idly by letting us live like a whore leaving us in a cesspool of sin …..Watching us prostitute our life to worldliness and the devil’s will for our life.

3) Grace does not condone, excuse, or overlook our personal sin and behaviors, because that would be sin. This same grace will meet the sinner and will re-parents the sinner to new lines of thinking in Psalm 16:6 and Eph 4:23. He by training, instruction, caring discipline, and causes one to learn like a loving father would instruct his child with new impulses, new mind, and new paths. He wants to work much deeper on the inside.

God wants to have Fatherhood (daddy’s) love for his dear children. Grace never kills an individual’s personal capacity, it causes healing and deliverance internally. A bone that has been crushed and broken needs to be cast and healed in a process. Sometimes the bone needs to be set and re-broken to heal properly inwardly. This is the grace proce

ss. The bone is broken inwardly and needs repair not only outwardly but also inwardly.

If you alter this message of the unalterable Grace of God it then becomes idolatry. We worship the one side of his Grace and alter the image of who He is and what he has done. We side with a one sided message. The same Grace that meets me and accepts me just as I am is that same Grace that does not condones, excuses, or overlooks me to be devastated by my own choices. When you worship one side of his Grace and alter the true image of Grace you enter into Jude 4…….. Lasciviousness: preaching a form of Godliness shamefully with no power.

Time and time again parents and young adults, ask me why? Many times some young adults develop their relationship with God horizontally only and not vertically. We cannot be their relationship with God. They have to let their heavenly daddy personally re-parent them.

Choices belong to us, consequences belong to God

· Heaven was a perfect environment and Lucifer fell with a 1/3 of the angels.

· The garden was a perfect environment and man fell.

· No church is a perfect environment, it is a wonderful environment.

· We cannot blame our environment.

The broken lives and countless young people are being healed and reconstructed daily by our ministry. We have numerous success stories of young people that have come through the valley and in the end have thanked God for the valley.

Responsibility

Developing Personal Responsibility

Titus 2:11-12

(The below emphasis comes from the Greek translations and root Translations)

After all, God’s saving Grace (unmerited favor of saving kindness and life of Who God is, what He has performed past , present, and in the future will perform in the Constance of God’s Character and Nature) has appeared (BRINGS TO LIGHT,revealed) for the benefit (deliverance, freedom, emancipation, liberation, release, rescue, recovery, salvation, of all people (everyone). It trains (re-patterns, re-parents, instructs, rationally mentally convinced) us to avoid (say “NO” to, turn our minds from, forsake, renounce) godless (self-indulgent) lives filled with worldly(cosmic, corrupt, earthly torments hostile to God) desires (pleasures, passions) so that we can live soberly(sensible, Rationally GOD-controlled, discrete, the rational expression of God’s mind which changes our mind from irrational to rational thinking), justly (uncorrupted integrity, Honest, and authentic, transparent), and (in a way that shows that we are serving a Living God) godly (spiritually whole and uprightly though Christ-like righteousness) lives in this present world (age, time).

Personal Responsibility is often associated with a place to be helped with some kind of problem or addiction such as drinking, drugs, pornography, or some other life-controlling issue, self-defeating behavior, or unwelcomed character traits. Yes, this is can be a principle venue; however, the emphasis should be our spiritual growth which infuses our irrational thinking, which stimulates unwelcomed behaviors, therefore changes our irrational thinking to a rational thinking re-patterned to Christly mind which helps in overcoming. It is not about just overcoming; it is being overcome with Christ as Lord of our minds through the rational expression of God’s Mind (Living Word of God). We can always wrestle with our temptations through our own efforts, but we might as well be Jacob wrestling with God (Gen. 32). We will succeed as long as God allows and as long as Satan allows. Thus, we must flee from him to be in God’s mind and thought (James 4:7-10)!

Effective Personal Responsibility has the emphasis on building quality and deep relationships that will help us with the following (1 Thess. 5:14 Col. 3:16 Heb. 3:13 Prov. 25:12; 27:17):

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As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.

Proverbs 27:17

· Adhering ourselves to God’s Word and call!

· Learning to commune with God more deeply so we can respond to His precepts more rapidly and thoroughly.

· Prayer that is not just about our personal needs but also with the needs of others!

· Reigniting our passion for Christ!

· Becoming teachable, and our thinking and behaviors examined!

· Being willing to recognize sin both in our lives and in the lives of others, as well!

· Being willing to learn about ourselves!

· Being willing to have healing in our lives!

· Being willing to see the needs of others!

· Being willing to overcome, and to be on guard concerning weaknesses and strengths.

· Being able to trust, share, and commune with another person in depth.

· Being willing to overcome issues that are bad for us.

· Knowing that we need others to keep us on track!

· A willingness to be challenged, convicted, molded, and sharpened so we can change and grow.

· Help to develop better and deeper fellowship a

nd unity with others!

· A platform to be transformed and renewed in Christ’s Mind!

· Becoming more sensitive and discerning!

· Learning to develop the fruit of the Spirit and exercise it.

· Being willing to confess and hear others in love and confidentiality—without judgment.

· Being encouraged and encouraging others!

· Developing godly, Christ-like character!

· Learning to take risks, be vulnerable, and overcome rejection and betrayal.

· Learning that God has called us to be involved in the lives of others and that we are not to be lone ranger Christians!

· Learning that we are to be patient, because Personal Responsibility is built over time!

· Learning that deep connections do not just happen between services of the church; we have to work at them in authentic community.

· Learning that we are at our best when we are being real and authentic.

· Learning about Christ’s redemption and our ability to mind change. Mind change causes Behavior change progressively through Grace not rules.

· Learning we can be used by God to be change agents in the lives of others as tools of God’s influence.

· Learning that relationships require effort and commitment.

· Developing harmony with others so we can communicate, and being transparent without being defensive.

· Developing maturity and spiritual growth!

· Leaning to be humble and wise!

· Allowing the work of the Holy Spirit within us and being used by Him in the lives of others as well!

· The ability to bust the noise of our will and desires, as we need a godly rational perspective we can hear over that noise!

· A reminder that God is in control, even in times of dire stress and confusion!

· Trusting in God and keeping His standards because they are best for us; there is no better way than His Way!

· Understanding that Personal Responsibility takes place in the crucible (a refractory made of porcelain, used for melting and purifying materials such as gold at high temperatures, that also refers to the confluence of powerful Personal Responsibilities such as intellectual, social, economic, or political) of community with other growing Christians!

· Knowing we need Personal Responsibility for our support, faith development, and growth!

· Knowing that Personal Responsibility takes our initiative, commitment, and continuance in it!

· We have no need to hide our sins from those who are entrusted to help us deal with them.

Leading a lawless, indifferent, irreverent life while having a faith that is just fire insurance from Hell may save you—may; however, you will reap dire consequences for this mindset (Deut. 18:15; Matt. 22:13-14; 23;1 Cor. 10:11-13; 2 Cor. 5:11)!

God designed the church as the body of Christ. Thus, we are called to utility and cooperation so we can be there for one another in times of fun as well as stress. We are called to encourage and equip as well as hold each other responsible to the commitment we have made in Christ as Lord.

But exhort one another daily, while it is called "Today," lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin. Hebrews 3:13responsibility123

What to Look For In From Personal Responsibility And/or influence Partner or Group?

To get involved in a Personal Responsibility group and/or influence Partner, first look for an existing one you can join such as a small group through your church or a neighboring church if your church does not have one. Make sure it is gender specific—men to men and women to women. Most of these groups are found under men’s or women’s ministries. If none are available or you are not led to one, hook up with another two or three people and start your own. You can find people through a church leader or pastor. In this process, make sure you are in prayer, asking God to lead you in the right direction! The substance of why and what you are doing is more important than the form of how you do it. The key to making this work is for you and the other participants to be open, submissive, listening, and authentic so you can confess your sins in a safe, confidential environment.

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Personal Responsibility and influence Partner or Group Will Have:

· Look for Non-judgmental confidentiality

· Look for people whom you already know or have a connection with such as a common interest or season in life.

· Look for people whom you respect, trust, are mature in their faith and character, and from whom you can learn so you can develop closeness and share shortcomings!

· Look for people who maintain a loving and respectful attitude!

· Make sure you use God’s Word; it is your mirror for our personal standards for faith and practice of our Christian life!

· Make sure no one dominates unless it is a teacher teaching. Have equal airtime so all can be involved. Thus, the number of people to have depends on the length of time you meet. If you meet for an hour, have no more than four people. If you meet for two hours, have no more than seven. If you are in a larger group, have a teaching time, then break down into sub groups for Personal Responsibility questions and prayer.

· Be willing to be flexible and surrender your time when another person needs extra time and care.

· Participants need to respect the feelings and time of others, and to speak the truth in love.

· Communicate ground rules or a code of conduct, clearly emphasizing confidentiality and equal time.

· Make sure prayer is the focus!

· Seek guidance from others who can maturely guide you, who have been there, done that—who have “weathered the storms” and are able to share it. Look for people you can shepherd and guide faithfully.

· Seek those who can help you adhere to God’s standards rather than to the world’s standards.

· Seek faithfulness and constancy!

· Use humor, but not at the expense of others!

· Be committed, and encourage others to be so, too!

· Remember, the primary purpose is to get yourself aligned with God’s love, call, and precepts over all else.

· The more mature people must teach the immature—not the other way around.

· Be aware of your pride, and never allow your maturity and growth to be a source of pride or use it to put others down!

· What you do not want is people teaching you who are prideful, who only care about themselves, or who are irritable, presumptive, judgmental, "too busy," and neglectful of others! Make sure you are not this way to others! Humility builds the bridges to individuals. Meekness allows us to have the consciousness of God’s thoughts. This takes lowliness of mind and years of development to change our irrational thinking to the rational thinking of God. This will always remain a process and be a system of developmental progress throughout our entire Christian journey.

There is no best way or program to “do” Personal Responsibility. It can be a “one-on-one” mentorship or a large group that is subdivided into smaller ones; it can meet for one hour or two, once a week or every other week. The important thing is to do it, remain committed, and to follow Christ and not yourself. If you do not “click” with the people in your group or feel you do not have a level of trust, that is OK; this may not be the group or person for you. Look for or start another one.

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How to practice personal responsibility and personal influence?

We do this with Paramount principles by our perception and eyesight toward others with the eyes of Christ—to see through the lens of love, compassion, and forgiveness. Take the one another passages to heart, and when we do instruct, warn, or even correct, do it in the parameters of the fruit of the Spirit, without judgment or commendation (as there is no such thing in Christ!). Then, we can be open and honest with one another. God gives us the faith, the strength, and the empowerment to do this, and when we are with others, it is synergized! It is not about our weakness, it is about His strength! When we rely on God and build one another up, we grow in faith and maturity and become more effective to one another. This is reciprocal, and will replicate and continue.

So, what is the final obstacle remaining? The continual commitment in Personal Responsibility is not just for a time, it is for all times, and requires our discipline and dedication to keep at it. If we stop, we soon go back to our fears and complacency. When this happens, sin that before was of no consequence has now grown big and is knocking on your door. Reoccurring commitment is essential to making anything that is precious work, from a friendship to marriage to being a member of a church. We must be purposed, deliberate, persistent, devoted and continual. Commitment brings about hope and growth through sacrifice, as we pour ourselves into it while being fueled by our Lord our capacity is build internally and therefore others around us are influenced to have their own capacities dug deeper by Grace.

Titus 2:11-12

(The below emphasis comes from the Greek translations and root Translations)

After all, God’s saving Grace (unmerited favor of saving kindness and life of Who God is, what He has performed past , present, and in the future will perform in the Constance of God’s Character and Nature) has appeared (BRINGS TO LIGHT ,revealed) for the benefit (deliverance, freedom, emancipation, liberation, release, rescue, recovery, salvation, of all people (everyone). It trains (re-patterns, re-parents, instructs, rationally mentally convinced) us to avoid (say “NO” to, turn our minds from, forsake, renounce) godless (self-indulgent) lives filled with worldly(cosmic, corrupt, earthly torments hostile to God) desires (pleasures, passions) so that we can live soberly(sensible, Rationally GOD-controlled, discrete, the rational expression of God’s mind which changes our mind from irrational to rational thinking), justly (uncorrupted integrity, Honest, and authentic, transparent), and (in a way that shows that we are serving a Living God) godly (spiritually whole and uprightly though Christ-like righteousness) lives in this present world (age, time).

The structure is up to you and your group. How do you lead an effective Personal Responsibility group? The same way you would a small group. Please see the resources we have developed for you:

Take it slow and easy. Don’t try, or even expect, to immediately delve into the deepest, darkest corners of your life. Begin by having your close friends hold you responsible for things like praying regularly and integrity issues. As you see the results and benefits of this, you will also be building up trust, which is necessary for Personal Responsibility in more personal and private areas. If you need further help in this area, seek a qualified and trusted pastor or Christian counselor. Also, seek someone to whom you can be responsible. Do not just trust yourself; have a small group or mentor ask you these questions on a regular basis! 

Remember that Christian maturity and character is “Christ-likeness,” becoming more like our Lord by living out His precepts. This is not a destination until we are called home to eternity; meanwhile we who are on this journey must make the most our opportunities. We can learn and grow deeper and closer or we can repel and become worldlier. This journey and the road you will take is your choice and in God’s providence (James 4:13-17)! So, go and be sharpened, and be a sharpener to others as well! In His Word and in prayer, watch your life grow and be transformed and triumphant!

Being a disciple of Christ and making disciples requires devotion, nurturing, commitment to the Word, and worship. Most mature Christians would agree on these basics, but other things required include discipline, the ability to be studious, and to be responsible. Our basis and starting point is God’s character. Peter tells us “we are to be holy because God is holy.” (1 Peter 1:16), and the way we can respond to this call is by being responsible in our personal lives as believers and as a church. So, we need to realize that one of our calls is to participate in conflict management so the wickedness of our nature does not get out of hand and so our relationships and opportunities do not fail. God’s Word gives us the guidelines and focus for proper confrontation and the management of problems so we can be more effective in His service.

Do not allow personal influence or Personal Responsibility in your Christian life or in your church to become a forgotten call!

In His Grace Forever,

Pastor Teddy Awad, CMHP

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